*nods* Yeah, your answer was a good way of doing it - and now I'll know in future that if you post something like this, that's what you mean.
Funnily enough, in a way it's my cultural programming coming into play too - because my experience of "People post saying they're not writing something" is that they do mean "Talk me into it/encourage me". Obviously that only holds for fic posts, not "serious stuff", but yeah, it's going by what I've been "taught" by other people. I spent years taking people at face value, then got told I was interpreting people wrong. Damn confusing human beans.
The whole softening-no thing can be so awkward, I've been cursed out to hell and back for actually enforcing my boundaries (I got called a rude c*** this week for telling someone that if I wanted disability advice I would ask.) because some people get so pissy about people actually having boundaries.
Re: Do I need a safeword with fandom? Yes, apparently.
Funnily enough, in a way it's my cultural programming coming into play too - because my experience of "People post saying they're not writing something" is that they do mean "Talk me into it/encourage me". Obviously that only holds for fic posts, not "serious stuff", but yeah, it's going by what I've been "taught" by other people. I spent years taking people at face value, then got told I was interpreting people wrong. Damn confusing human beans.
The whole softening-no thing can be so awkward, I've been cursed out to hell and back for actually enforcing my boundaries (I got called a rude c*** this week for telling someone that if I wanted disability advice I would ask.) because some people get so pissy about people actually having boundaries.