You know, I think I've mellowed.

[jmtorres]

It used to be when people poked me in my journal comments in ways I didn't like to be poked, I banned them.

Now I just tell them I don't feel I should have to disclose information just because they're interested until they unsub and ban me.

(Dude, it was in my journal. What is the point of banning? Is this person afraid I'm going to follow her to her journal and harass her with my insistence that I don't want to discuss it any further?)

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[azurelunatic]

Probably.

[jmtorres]

*eyeroll*

[azurelunatic]

*reads back* Oh my. That's something, all right. And, for what it's worth, a reasoned response to a "no, none of your business" is ... not that. Very not that. You shouldn't feel obliged to give more details than you're comfortable sharing; you shouldn't feel obliged to go into history you've already been over with doctors to your satisfaction. I have seen other friends get, and react to, this sort of concerned-friend badgering from people who were closer to them; it happens a good deal with people who have various conditions that disable them a good deal more than what you were talking about there, and one does just get so. very. tired. of rehashing the stuff. So it's a very reasonable boundary to set; many others who are not you set and enforce it. I think it says more about them than it says about you that they're afraid that you will come after them and cause problems in their journal; from that, it sounds like they have a habit of getting into disputes that follow them home.

I can't say but that you banning them wouldn't be for the best. These things are less entertaining the more of them you see.

(And I say this about the boundaries in a large part because I lost a friendly acquaintance years ago by trying to be too helpful. She'd accidentally defriended a non-mutual friend whose writing she liked, and had no idea who it was. I tried to help figure it out. She told me to stop; I still thought I could get it, and kept trying. She defriended me, because even though I was trying to help with the purest intentions, all it was doing was upsetting her, and she'd told me to stop and I didn't.)