What you're saying made sense - as I said earlier on, part of it was not knowing you, and not knowing what you mean by things, so I only have "other people in fandom" to go on as a benchmark - and the people I was going off do use "no" and "I'm not" in posts where everyone knows they're waiting to be talked into something.

Reading down the comments, I didn't even think of this as being related to sex, because I don't view fic that way. How you reacted makes more sense - the "no means no" rstatement is something I always equate with rape discussions, and you moving straight to that made me defensive as hell. But if your view on fic-writing is that it's a sexual thing, then that *does* make sense now.

Funnily enough, all this was what I was hoping to avoid by *asking*. Ah well, happens.