I just want to say that I'm finding this conversation fascinating and I am sitting here completely rethinking the way I use social constructions like "I am not writing this story." (I think I usually explicitly invite people to convince me otherwise when I am half-willing to be convinced? But I am not sure. And I probably wouldn't mention not writing something in the first place unless I knew I was comfortable with people telling me I should. And that's still sort of iffy altogether.)