Ugh. I thought for a sec and knew that's what she meant. I was only off for two months my entire life (I got it not at all, from using medication, and no, not the Pill or anything like that) so I have no idea what um, "constant irregularity" - an oxymoron! - is like - but I do know that going without it and wondering if you'll ever get it again, and wondering if you don't ever want to get it again, is weird.
Heh, I've been back and forth with this enough to know that it's a stress level issue and while I've had occasional moments of OH GOD WILL I BE INFERTILE, mostly I just ignore it when I don't have it.
Goodness - *feels jealous* - I wish stress was enough to put it off for me. I've had through-the-roof out-of-control stress most of my life (I'm one of those people who can project an outward calm while basically rippling with tension inside) but it hasn't done jack to put mine off for more than 5 days, at most. But seriously, I would suggest making an appt. with a good ob/gyn if you have proper access to one and have not done so already, since it seems you do want to leave the option open to have kids someday. Best of luck to you :)
Nah, I've been, they poked everything they could think of (they really wanted it to be cysts. or cancer) and came up with nada, and the second the semester was over (that semester sucked really hard) I started bleeding. So I'm pretty sure of what's what on that.
Well, obviously something's wrong, so a second opinion certainly couldn't hurt, in your case.
"...they poked everything they could think of (they really wanted it to be cysts. or cancer)..."
I'm sorry, but that made me flinch. Really hard. What sort of doctor could ever "want it" to be cancer? Do you mean for the financial angle of it? That's just hideous.
As for cysts, most likely not. Granted there are all different kinds of cysts, so I can't say for sure, but I just asked my mom, and she said if you had the sort of benign cyst she had, you would be doubled over in pain, and eventually lose weight (before the sharper pain of it came along, she had severe nausea and constant dull pain which made her unable to eat - she lost about 15 pounds, going from 110 to 96 pounds at just 5' 4").
When my mom was 20 her doctor found it jut by pressing in that area - he could feel it through her skin. She had surgery to remove it a week later (this was 1965, when you got right in even for minor operations) and the cyst was already the size of a half-dollar. Once it was removed, she never had a problem again.
I always thought I'd have cysts (or at least one major cyst like she did) because of her history, but generally speaking, no problems...still, your lack of regularity is perplexing (assuming it's not brought on by anything you know of), so if I were you, I'd be concerned, and I'd check into it more, if I could.
edit: I mean, I get that you're saying you think it's just stress, but stress shouldn't do that to any woman's body. Seven months is way too long for stress to be the only factor - I would think. :)
Sorry, I'm sure you can read all the details in the longer reply I left before in your inbox, but what I really was trying to say was:
Thank you for your interest in my medical history, but it is really none of your concern. I have not ignored warning signs nor hidden from doctors so please don't try to diagnose me from home.
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You know, that is the craziest thing I've read all week. I reacted out of concern for you (I could care less about your medical history, it is, as you said, exactly none of my business). I never accused you of ignoring warning signs. I intimated that you might be trusting your original doctor too much, that is all. I am always suspicious of medical practitioners in general for whatever reasons I have. So I believe in second opinions. That was all I was suggesting: that perhaps you might want a second opinion.
I am not trying to diagnose you from home. How exactly might I do that? I was merely trying to help, and worried that you might not have done all you could do to help yourself. I really don't know how you could misinterpret my concern, but somehow you did. Bye. Seriously. I don't ever want to deal with you again.
worried that you might not have done all you could do to help yourself
Yes, I found myself trying to explain everything I had done and learned about it, again, because this is a conversation I've had with other people before, and then I decided no: I don't owe you that information just because you assumed I might be ignorant of my own condition.
I'm sorry that my belated decision to set a boundary on this issue upset you. I have unsubscribed from you as well, and will make every attempt not to disturb you again.
"I don't owe you that information just because you assumed I might be ignorant of my own condition."
Point out where I assumed you might be ignorant of your own condition. Exact comment, thread, and sentence. I'll wait (actually, no I won't - and you're banned on my end, so don't bother).
You are reading an awful lot into, "My mom said when she had a cyst, it felt like this, so she did that" and "You might want to grab a second opinion".
For the second time, I think it is odd that anyone can go 7 months without a period yet nothing is wrong with that person except stress. If that is so, then you know what? That is great, and I am happy for you. I don't want you to be sick, which was the whole point of me responding to your comments to me in the first place. But beyond that, you are over-personalizing this to an extreme.
I get now that you have apparently been annoyed to no end in the (perhaps) recent past by doctors badgering you to take this more seriously so in earlier comments maybe you felt I was badgering you, too, and if so I am sorry for that, but I could not see it coming, lacking the Crystal Ball that would have obviously come in quite handy when discussing such matters with you here. I always liked you and I'm sorry you took offense but you did, and you should not have, so I am done here, really.
Hmm, we seem to be at "I don't want to have this conversation, you don't want to have this conversation," so I'm not really sure why we're still having this conversation.
You want to know why? Dreamwidth acquaintances who misconstrue my concern as "nosiness", "prying", and presumptuousness kind of fandangle me. But then again (and this is also why I pre-emptively banned you) you yourself admit you're an unkind person and a troublemaker, so I should have seen through whatever kinder, gentler veneer you have without it taking all this. Whoops. Silly me! Also, saw your other post about me, and thanks, but ban away.
Edited (i like editing a lot - & apparently so do you!) 2011-01-10 15:08 (UTC)
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"...they poked everything they could think of (they really wanted it to be cysts. or cancer)..."
I'm sorry, but that made me flinch. Really hard. What sort of doctor could ever "want it" to be cancer? Do you mean for the financial angle of it? That's just hideous.
As for cysts, most likely not. Granted there are all different kinds of cysts, so I can't say for sure, but I just asked my mom, and she said if you had the sort of benign cyst she had, you would be doubled over in pain, and eventually lose weight (before the sharper pain of it came along, she had severe nausea and constant dull pain which made her unable to eat - she lost about 15 pounds, going from 110 to 96 pounds at just 5' 4").
When my mom was 20 her doctor found it jut by pressing in that area - he could feel it through her skin. She had surgery to remove it a week later (this was 1965, when you got right in even for minor operations) and the cyst was already the size of a half-dollar. Once it was removed, she never had a problem again.
I always thought I'd have cysts (or at least one major cyst like she did) because of her history, but generally speaking, no problems...still, your lack of regularity is perplexing (assuming it's not brought on by anything you know of), so if I were you, I'd be concerned, and I'd check into it more, if I could.
edit: I mean, I get that you're saying you think it's just stress, but stress shouldn't do that to any woman's body. Seven months is way too long for stress to be the only factor - I would think. :)
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Thank you for your interest in my medical history, but it is really none of your concern. I have not ignored warning signs nor hidden from doctors so please don't try to diagnose me from home.
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I am not trying to diagnose you from home. How exactly might I do that? I was merely trying to help, and worried that you might not have done all you could do to help yourself. I really don't know how you could misinterpret my concern, but somehow you did. Bye. Seriously. I don't ever want to deal with you again.
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Yes, I found myself trying to explain everything I had done and learned about it, again, because this is a conversation I've had with other people before, and then I decided no: I don't owe you that information just because you assumed I might be ignorant of my own condition.
I'm sorry that my belated decision to set a boundary on this issue upset you. I have unsubscribed from you as well, and will make every attempt not to disturb you again.
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Point out where I assumed you might be ignorant of your own condition. Exact comment, thread, and sentence. I'll wait (actually, no I won't - and you're banned on my end, so don't bother).
You are reading an awful lot into, "My mom said when she had a cyst, it felt like this, so she did that" and "You might want to grab a second opinion".
For the second time, I think it is odd that anyone can go 7 months without a period yet nothing is wrong with that person except stress. If that is so, then you know what? That is great, and I am happy for you. I don't want you to be sick, which was the whole point of me responding to your comments to me in the first place. But beyond that, you are over-personalizing this to an extreme.
I get now that you have apparently been annoyed to no end in the (perhaps) recent past by doctors badgering you to take this more seriously so in earlier comments maybe you felt I was badgering you, too, and if so I am sorry for that, but I could not see it coming, lacking the Crystal Ball that would have obviously come in quite handy when discussing such matters with you here. I always liked you and I'm sorry you took offense but you did, and you should not have, so I am done here, really.
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