Daily Happiness

Nov. 26th, 2015 11:14 pm
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1. I got a lot of cleaning done this morning and the house looks pretty great. It would have been easy to blow off the cleaning because we were making food and Alexander was coming over, but I never have the energy to clean on work days so I really wanted to get it done and I did. Yay.

2. We had delicious turkey, green bean casserole, sweet potatoes, and pumpkin cheesecake.

3. Molly cuddled with me on the sofa this evening and was just super sweet.

Stone Age Chimps

Nov. 26th, 2015 11:53 pm
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 Chimpanzees are in the Stone Age.  Of course, Homo ergaster  did that for about a million years and it never went anywhere but the one rather awesome hand-axe.  You need a cluster of inventors, not just one ... which is hard because most inventors don't want to incarnate at that level of technology.

The Trials of Night Shoots

Nov. 27th, 2015 04:48 am
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Very early Wednesday morning, at around 2 a.m., I drove into Manhattan to check out the new holiday windows and get some better shots at Bergdorf Goodman, and found an annoying trend: interior window lighting that really isn't camera-friendly. One of the two Bloomingale's windows I liked has purple, magenta, and orange lighting. One of the two figures isn't showing up well due to all the magenta light on her face. Bergdorf's "Hidden Gem" window was more brightly lit than last time, but all that dark purple with a few bright spotlights isn't doing me, or the mannequin's face, any favors. Saks Fifth Avenue lit a majority of its windows entirely with a medium blue! On mannequins painted white with blue makeup. Some of the shots turned out really impressionistic. Though maybe I shouldn't be surprised, since one Christmas they used purple lighting on mannequins painted white with silver and gold makeup. (I know the actual mannequin colorings from shots I took with a flash, which I don't post online because I try to avoid showing photos that show the flash flare circles and because the paint often looks cheap under flash lighting.)

I have nearly 300 shots, so it'll take awhile to curate the collection and process and post the ones I want to share. I'll do it in batches so I won't go insane.


While I was shooting windows on 58th Street, a man came up to me and tried to start a conversation. We were the only two people on the block. Once we got past talking a bit about the windows, I didn't have more to say and he couldn't come up with more. Then he offered to shoot a photo of me in front of the window and I said thanks, but no thanks. I'm not handing a stranger my iPhone 5S while alone with him at 3 a.m.


Thanks to its appearance on recent episodes of Dancing With the Stars and Lip Sync Battle, I keep getting "Rhythm Nation" showing up in and getting stuck in my head. Sorry, Tamar Braxton, but Joseph Gordon-Levitt totally outdanced you doing it (JGL's performance is preceded on this video by Anthony Mackie performing "2 Legit 2 Quit").


Lightsaber Battle NYC: Battle of Hoth Edition -- Friday, December 18 at 8:00pm - 11:00pm in EST at Union Square

"THIS EVENT WILL NOT HAPPEN UNLESS 500 LIGHTSABERS ARE RESERVED VIA TILT! Here is the link: https://www.tilt.com/tilts/nyc-battle-of-hoth-lightsabers

JEDI AND SITH! We may have had a battle earlier this year, but now that The Force Awakens is about to rock the planet, many have been asking: What about NYC?! Well, we're going for the World Record for the Largest Lightsaber Battle in the World, so you got it!

[World Record Link: https://www.facebook.com/events/535681536590367/ ]

In response to unbelievable demand, we are going to recreate the Battle of Hoth! Come as Jedi, Sith, Rebel Forces or Stormtroopers! Expect an AT-AT walker or two. All followed by an epic afterparty. Do you want this? Will it be too cold? We will let the people decide!

Join us for a massive battle of Jedi vs. Sith in NYC on Star Wars Episode VII opening weekend. Pick a side of the force and use that venerable, ancient, glowing tool: the lightsaber, in the ultimate nocturnal showdown. In the past we have attracted up to 2000 warriors in New York City and Toronto, and we can expect even more this time :)

For every $5 you contribute (early bird - regular price is $10), we will reserve one lightsaber for you. Each lightsaber changes up to 6 colors is about 3' long, and you will be able to pick them up at the event.

+ Friday December 18th - professional lightsaber demonstrations by LightsaberAcademy.com's local team the NEW YORK JEDI!
+ Midnight December 18th - Star Wars Episode VII premiers!
+ Afterparties: https://www.facebook.com/events/761100100660539/"


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Dealing with Dragons (Enchanted Forest Chronicles) and Searching for Dragons (Enchanted Forest Chronicles Book 2)

3/5. A princess runs away and volunteers to be the "captive" of a dragon, and foils various wizardly plots.

Cute! If your definition of cute involves making a girl cool by cutting down every other girl in the world. They're all so vapid, you know, and girly, ugh.

Anyway, this is middle grade fantasy, and it will do, if that's what you want. But like her other series I have tried, this one starts out with a sweet and poised first book and then goes rapidly downhill into obnoxiousness. I see the writing on the wall here, so I'm bailing early. You can't fool me, Patricia C. Wrede, I'm never reading whatever the hell that third Sorcery and Cecilia book was called again.


Nov. 26th, 2015 09:34 pm
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I am a little ball of stress right now, thanks to the GPS trying to get me off the highway seven different times on the way back, and also construction, and also I twinged my neck a little. There's nothing I can do about construction, and my neck is a lost cause (well, I'm gonna take a hot shower and then do PT, should help), but does anyone have any recs for a new GPS? This one is only 2 years old, but, honestly, this has just hammered home how much I fucking need one where I can set the desired route in advance (without having to hook it up to a computer) and then if it needs to deviate because traffic or whatever, it asks first or at least tells me. So this won't be like all the times it suddenly wants me to take the turnpike (this thing hates toll roads, hates them, even though the "avoid toll roads" option has never been set to yes) and I don't know if it's doing that because it's being absurd or because there's a ton of traffic ahead of me. (Every time, I have not taken the turnpike, and there has been no traffic to require a detour.)

tl;dr I hate driving. Anyone have a GPS that doesn't keep making it worse? I hate using this thing. It's been trouble from day one. Tonight is honestly the last straw. I am curled up in a little stressful ball and am more emotional than I've been all week, and considering the week...


Nov. 26th, 2015 07:46 pm
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So... remember how, back in 2012, there was a short video released about an android named Kara? I requested it for Yuletide last year, and got a lovely story based on it?

That one?

They're making a full game out of it! It's for PS4 only, which means I'm not sure when and if I'll actually get to play it (since I'm a PC gamer), but still!


Nov. 26th, 2015 06:32 pm
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Beer and pizza, with bonus pie! Much better than turkey, in my mind. ;-)

ETA: And before someone asks, because I know that at least one of you is going to ask, the foxes? Are my salt and pepper shakers.

Pursuant to the last post

Nov. 26th, 2015 08:22 pm
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If anyone fancies writing fic (fanfic or origfic) for Rachel, she's put up a bunch of (really rather awesome, IMHO) prompts and descriptions of what she likes. Check it out. See if you are inspired:

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Nov. 26th, 2015 02:08 pm
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Today is the day that Americans celebrate by having uncomfortable political conversations! \o/

Two different kinds of uncomfortable political conversations: the first exemplified by the fact that I have sworn to walk out of family dinner the minute someone endorses Donald Trump. (I don't *think* they will - we have enough different views that we're pretty skilled at being apolitical - but I'm not sitting through it or fighting them if it starts, so. If they just put on the football instead I'm going to be sitting in the corner reading Check Please! slash on my phone.)

The second exemplified by the fact that I put up a Books by Native American Authors display at the library for the end of this month. (It's getting way less checkouts than the "How To Bake Pies" one the other librarian put up, but thus is the way of things. It also contains literally every book by a Native American author who isn't Michael Dorris that I could find in the library, which says volumes on its own.)

Anyway, in the spirit of the second, have some podcast recs:

I got onto otipêyimisiw-iskwêwak kihci-kîsikohk (Métis In Space) via a rec from [personal profile] sara, and it is now one of my favorite podcasts. Every week two Métis women, Molly and Chelsea, plus the occasional special guest, tipsily dismember a SFnal movie, TV show, or video that features Indigenous people in it. Also they occasionally get confusing dispatches from their future selves who live in a spaceship above a decolonized North America. It's the kind of podcast I like best - the kind that feels like a couple of fans have just invited you into their living room to chat - and is really smart and really compassionate and really fun. Also if you like Canadian things it is possibly the most beautifully Canadian thing I have ever encountered.

I have made very few decisions regarding my Hugo nominations yet, but otipêyimisiw-iskwêwak kihci-kîsikohk is definitely going on there for fancast, and you all should try it so you can decide whether to nominate it too. To start I suggest the recent episode The Manitou, where they watch a terrible 70s horror movie that they end up being unexpectedly fond of. Or the slightly older episode Knights of Cydonia, which is a music video that easy to watch in advance if you want to know what they're talking about, and was also taped while one of them was literally in labor - they have to stop for contractions a few times - which makes it possibly the most hardcore podcast ever.

Another podcast I have recently started listening to is Archeological Fantasies, which I don't know that I wholeheartedly recommend: I listen to it because I will listen to well-informed people make fun of the Bimini Road and the Newark Holy Stones and their ilk for as long as you can let me, but the hosts do sometimes get on my nerves, often with that sort of unconsciously arrogant PhD-knows-best kind of elitism that makes you understand why people cling to their antiscience beliefs. But that said it's mostly good and they are trying to be fair spokespeople for science (I just have high standards for public skepticism) and if you, too, will happily listen to hours of intelligent people calling out Ancient Aliens as idiotic, it's fun.

But there was a recent episode that stepped away from their usual format, and that one I do recommend heartily. It's Dr. Fader telling the story of The Legend of the Lighthouse. The Lighthouse isn't an actual lighthouse; it's an oddly-named historical site where he's been working for decades. I won't go into detail about it because he tells the story really well and it was better unspoiled, but it was a lost town that had attached a beautiful legend about a mixed-race community in the early 19th century that turns out to almost entirely verifiably true, and the true story comes out better than the legend, and made me cry, and that kind of history needs to be better known. So you should listen to that episode.
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Posted by thebloggess

Today is Thanksgiving and it’s a time to be thankful but sometimes that’s a little hard because maybe you’re dealing with a big bunch of bullshit, or maybe you have to see relatives that you already know are sharpening their tongues, or maybe you’re depressed and you feel bad for not feeling ecstatically thankful for all the wonderful things you’ve been blessed with but the rest of the world is all “BE FUCKING THANKFUL!  BE PERFECT!  COOK AND TAKE A SHOWER AND OWN MORE THAN FOUR PAIRS OF MATCHING PLATES, YOU HEATHEN.”  And then you feel rebelliously ungrateful out of pure spite and then you get mad because FUCK, THEY’RE WINNING IF WE’RE UNHAPPY (they = assholes) so then you realize you’re fucked either way.

But you’re not.

Because today is just a day.  And maybe you are lucky enough to spend it with a houseful of people you adore and everything is perfect and you love to cook and your brain chemistry is lovely and you don’t have to pretend to be sick to avoid a terrible relative or lock yourself in a bathroom to keep yourself from strangling a bitter great-aunt and if this is you then, you know what?  I’m happy for you.  I’m grateful you exist because that means there’s hope for the rest of us.  And anyway, who says today is the day you have to be thankful.  I’m cheerfully thankful for my life and blessings on uncomplicated non-Thanksgiving days all the time and I never get credit for that so technically I just celebrate Thanksgiving early and often and on days when my brain works correctly and there is no pressure and I can just be with the family I love and not feel weirdly guilty about bullshit I can’t control.

If this doesn’t make sense you should consider yourself grateful (pun totally intended) because that means that you are either very lucky and should enjoy this day to the max, or it just means you’re not crazy enough to understand.  Either way, things are working out for you.

And for the rest of us?

Baby steps.  What one small thing that you sometimes take for granted are you thankful for?

Me first.  I’m thankful that kittens and sloths exist.  I’m thankful that you are here.  I’m thankful that my daughter was happy with the fact that I can’t cook to save my life, but I can help her sculpt turkeys.

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Technically those are three things but I’m also thankful that this is my post so I can break the rules and share as much as I want.  And you can too.

Just know that you are not alone.  Even if you are by yourself.  Even if you feel alone in a crowded room.  Even if you’re one of the weirdos who actually enjoys this day with no hesitations or grief or complications.  You are not alone.  You are with us.  And I’m so grateful for that.

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(via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANi4QUokO4s)

For those who don’t know much about the 1970s TV series Starsky & Hutch, it was noted for 3 things: tackling social issues and topics considered taboo on Prime Time TV, its levels of violence and the amazing chemistry between the two actors. In the pilot, the two characters are battling not just crime but also corruption within the police force and say (onscreen) to one another: “Out there, it is just Me and Thee.” A perfect recipe for both slash and RPS.

The amount of touching, hand holding and on screen caressing between the two actors was unusual and did raise some eyebrows. Because slash was still in its infancy in the 1970s,slash writers in SH fandom were deeply underground. RPF/RPS was so off the radar that when I came into the fandom in the 1990s, I did not know there had ever been any SH RPS until the late 2000s. No one wanted to talk about it.

In this video excerpt actor Paul Glaser talks about how he and his co-actor David Soul had intense feelings for one another, but were not comfortable with acknowledging them until much later in life. They essentially poured all their emotion into their characters on screen.

He also talks about how when real life parallels art (in this case what was happening on the TV screen), you create…. synergy.

If I had been into slash fandom in the 1970s and if RPS had not been such a taboo, I would have been all over that….synergy. It was not until Supernatural that I started reading RPS (”Supernatural: where RPS is the moral high ground.”) And Wincest. And wingfic. And MPREG. And A/B/O fic. And….

Ahem, I digress. Anyhow, I raise a glass to Starsky & Hutch. In a few days they will start their 2015 Advent Calendar.

Tags:starsky & hutch, early rpf, slash, DWCrosspost

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OTW Fannews: From Philes to Fire

Nov. 26th, 2015 05:04 pm
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Posted by Pip Janssen


Background flames with text saying From Philes to Fire

  • Fan/Fic Magazine wrote about how AO3 revolutionized fandom by looking at the events that led to the founding of the OTW. "A brief snapshot of fandom in early 2007: The first Naruto series had wrapped, and Naruto Shippuden had just started airing. Supernatural was wrapping up its second season with a shocking finale in “All Hell Breaks Loose.” Kingdom Hearts II and Final Fantasy XII came out only the year before, and Final Fantasy 7 fandom was back with a vengeance with the release of Advent Children. The world waited breathlessly for the release of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows. And fandom on LiveJournal was on fire."
  • Den of Geek looked back at development of X-Files fandom. "There was more online buzz before the commercial aspects of The X-Files had caught up, which allowed for a freer flow of media content. 'Best of all, unlike most ‘fan magazines’ with their carefully controlled content, it was a free-for-all discussion, where the most outrageous and insightful and sometimes brutally honest discussions about UFOs, the government, conspiracies, Mulder's hair, and Scully's wardrobe could take place without interference.'" Although the article mentioned various fan sites it failed to mention Gossamer, the landmark fanfiction repository.
  • A number of outlets wrote about an Australian documentary on boyband fans. "Leski has met fangirls in the US and Australia that own their passion and use it to create material of their own. 'It was the first time I’d seen fan art and fan fiction, and it was a much bigger world that I realised,' says Leski. Fangirls can form accepting and inclusive online communities...Adolescence is when girls experience a drop in self-esteem and depression rates go up. Fangirls are empowered by their fandom, make deep connections with each other and have an outlet for personal expression. Educators and psychologists Leski interviewed believe that validating fandom, rather than dismissing it as trivial and temporary, is important. It can set girls up with the self-esteem, passion and skills they will find useful as adults."
  • The Bangalore Mirror featured a look at fan behaviors. "In 2008, Shira Gabriel, a psychologist at the University at Buffalo, conducted a series of three studies on celebrity worship to measure its impact upon the self-esteem of 348 college students...Students who initially scored lowest on the self-esteem scale scored much higher on the second test (after they wrote about their best-loved celebrities). Gabriel was quoted: 'Because people form bonds in their mind with their favourite celebrities, they are able to assimilate the celebrity's characteristics in themselves and feel better about themselves when they think about that celebrity.'"
  • What have been landmark events in your fandom's history? Write about them in Fanlore! Contributions are welcome from all fans.

    We want your suggestions! If you know of an essay, video, article, podcast, or link you think we should know about, comment on the most recent OTW Fannews post. Links are welcome in all languages! Submitting a link doesn't guarantee that it will be included in a Fannews post, and inclusion of a link doesn't mean that it is endorsed by the OTW.


    Marvel Cinematic Universe

    Nov. 26th, 2015 11:52 am
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    I currently have no interest in the newer/upcoming Marvel movies, and pretty much the only ones I'm rewatching at all right now are those from Phase One and Guardians of the Galaxy. I've also given up on Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. So, you know, the hype about the recent trailer? Isn't doing much of anything for me. Which is kind of sad, considering how much I was in love with the MCU just a few years ago.

    I think that part of it is that the comic event said movie was (loosely) inspired by? Actually made me stop reading Marvel comics for years, so the fact that they're bringing it into the MCU is bothering me more than it probably should. Bitter? Me? Where would you get that idea? :-/

    That said, I did actually enjoy Agent Carter (and hope that enjoyment continues with the second season) and am pretty positive about the various Netflix series. I think the fact that they're more self-contained, with the broader events of the MCU being more background noise is helping with that. Although gods only know what I'll do if they start tying into the movies more in the future.

    Anyway, I've (finally!) watched all of Daredevil. And I absolutely loved it, which surprised me a bit. The various comic titles starring Daredevil have never been my favorites, but I really enjoyed this adaptation. I love the characters and their relationships with each other.

    I'm also currently watching Jessica Jones, which so far is as awesome as I was hoping it would be. Because, you know, it's Jessica fucking Jones. ♥ It's also very heavy, so I can't binge watch it like I did Daredevil. Gore and physical violence I can handle in large doses, but the psychological aspect that's so prevalent in Jessica Jones? Not so much.

    blues sonnet for Thanksgiving Day

    Nov. 26th, 2015 10:43 am
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    Bright sun, deep blue above, trees around me
    Yes, sun and deep blue sky, oaks surround me,
    Music to honor the fresh-pressed morning.

    Blown leaves swirling, breeze in my face today
    Yes, old leaves swirling, air teasing hair away
    Old guitar keeps me happy in a world of mourning.

    Let the rest of the day come as it will
    Oh, the day will come as it surely will
    But this music joys this bright-new morning.

    I know sorrows haunt us, pain leaves us crying
    Yes, sorrows haunt us and people are dying
    But we all need refuge in a world of mourning.

    To everything there is a time, both sad
    And sublime. Awake! Life is not just bad.


    Nov. 26th, 2015 10:30 am
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    1. Whoever put the Charlie Brown Thanksgiving on YouTube in full. Thank you, unknown person.

    2. Fresh flowers on the table. Just autumn-colored mums from the grocery store, but they brighten my day.

    3. Having given both myself, and my son, a shiny gold manicure. My mother would plotz.

    4. Coffee this morning.

    5. Friends whom I love dearly. Including you.

    For those who are in the US and celebrate Thanksgiving today, happy Thanksgiving. For everyone else, hey, I'm grateful for y'all every day anyway.

    Taking over the world is overrated

    Nov. 26th, 2015 04:28 pm
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    In some of the Jessica Jones reviews and comments that I've spotted, I've seen the complaint re: our main villain's lack of ambition. Which to me was one of the refreshing elements of the show. And in this particular case, it made so much sense. After all, why should Kilgrave want to take over the city/country/planet? What could he possibly gain that he doesn't already have?

    We're so used to supervillains wanting to rule that we've stopped questioning why they should want to. Jessica Jones has a villain with an ability that already ensures his every whim is catered to. He's not lacking in any material thing he could want, he can use people in any way he wants to, and seriously, governing the city/country/world is work, even if you're doing it badly.

    Villains who want to take over usually want to change something. No matter whether they're Evil McEvil villains who want to create a wasteland or Utopians gone wrong who want to create a new, better society with casualties, they're not content with the world as it is. Whereas Kilgrave is fine with the world as it is, minus the part where spoiler for second half of the season ) which isn't something domination of a territory would change.

    Part of what makes this series so good to me is that this doesn't make Kilgrave any less damaging than villains who sic superweapons on people. Throughout the season, we see the lives he's harmed or taken, and that's what's at stake in Jessica's quest to defeat him. It's not solely a matter of Jessica's own life, or that of her immediate circle; we've seen both in cameos and supporting characters taking up more narrative space the wreckage Kilgrave leaves after him. And to me, this meant the emotional stakes as a viewer were higher, not lower, than if the show had presented a conventionally ambitious villain intent on becoming Lord Mcoverlord the Third.

    It is suck a long time until May!

    Nov. 26th, 2015 06:47 am
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    I was driving all day yesterday, so missed that Chris E and RDJ were on Kimmel with a trailer for Captain America:Civil War.

    Like everyone else, I have *FEELS* - so many FEELS!

    that I'll put under the cut with the trailer )
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    "My Dear Holiday Child,

    You can thank your agender sibling for this letter; I wouldn’t have found this website on my own. We read all the letters last year and I was struck by the number of you that needed a mom. I am overjoyed that they thought I’d be a good Holiday Mom.

    I understand that you feel like this holiday season will not seem to be as warm and loving as a Hallmark card. Let me let you in on a secret ~ Hallmark cards aren’t real and parents can be stupid and ignorant. We may come across like we have all the answers when, in reality, we may not even know the questions. But we can also be loving, caring and accepting. I am very happy that you have chosen to join our family.

    Tensions can rise in any family this time of year. We all have high expectations that may fall flat or hurt us. Please just hold on, it does get better. When things get tough, please remind yourself that it will pass. Your grandmother always told me that “it’ll be alright” and I’d get angry with her “how do you know” and she say that she just knew. I have to admit, that she was right, it did get better…"

    Peg's letter continues at Your Holiday Mom ♥
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    * It's difficult to cook when the cat demands, every two minutes, that you fix his food bowl. ('Fix', in this case, defined as 'push all the food back into the center of the bowl from the corners he licked it into'.) It is possible Gabe is a bit spoiled.

    * I am so incredibly mellow about this holiday prep it's not even funny, although I'm sure that in another eight hours I'll be doing the "...but what if we don't have enough FOOD" panic. I can't even find my schedule. I know it's here somewhere, I just don't know WHERE. And I'm not at all fussed by this. As long as the turkey is in the oven by 1PM, it's all good.

    * It occurred to me tonight that if I ever become a superhero, I can bring all my superhero friends to holidays with me no problem even if they want to be introduced by codename, because over the last twenty years, my parents have been conditioned to accept hearing "Oh, this is my friend DinosaurKitten" without batting an eyelash. (Exactly twenty years, in fact; the first Thanksgiving guest I brought home From The Internet(tm) was in 1995.) They stopped even wondering why all my friends seem to have five or six names that people call them after a few years!

    * The best part of having [personal profile] arie here for Thanksgiving (I can't say 'visiting for Thanksgiving', because by now this is also her house even if she's only here two or three times a year) is that I know I can leave the sink full of dirty dishes and the house elves will magically clean them by the time I wake up again.

    * ...which will be in six hours, because I am harnessing my sleep disorder to do all the prep the night before, but that means I will not be getting much sleep. Ugh.

    * My attempt at Serious Eats' Birdie Bread Rolls did not turn out quite as adorable, but they are still pretty fucking cute. (I used raisins instead of chocolate cereal pearls for the eyes.)

    And now it's time to feed the cat again (it's been a whole TWENTY MINUTES since he got food!) and try to sleep for a bit. Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate!

    Daily Happiness

    Nov. 26th, 2015 12:16 am
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    1. We had a cashier out sick again today (different one from yesterday) so it was pretty hectic this morning, but I still managed to get what I needed to get done while only staying like 45 minutes late.

    2. Last night and tonight for dinner we had tomato soup and quesadillas, which is so delicious! I've always liked tomato soup with grilled cheese sandwiches, and we had been talking about that, but we didn't have any bread in the house while we did have tortillas, so we went with the quesadillas instead and it was such a good decision!

    3. We started watching Aziz Ansari's new Netflix sitcom Master of None and it's really funny!

    Charging for Emotional Labor

    Nov. 26th, 2015 12:29 am
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    Here's an interesting post about emotional labor, sex work, money, and feminism.

    Emotional labor is real work.  It takes time and effort.  If you do it, you should be getting something for it: enjoyment, favors, cash, whatever floats your boat.  Marriages generally run more on barter than cash, although the financial benefits are common too.  Sex work is more pay-as-you-play ... but yes, really,  men absolutely do turn to sex workers for attention, comfort, reassurance, fake love, emotional support, etc. in addition to orgasms.  Some guys just want to get off, but a lot of guys want to get off while talking about how their wife/girlfriend/woman-who-doesn't-know-they-exist doesn't appreciate them.

    What I'm Doing Wednesday

    Nov. 25th, 2015 10:48 pm
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    A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson. Fascinating how much of the science is totally obsolete in the 12 years since publication, esp re DNA and climate. Extremely irritating anglophilia and non-WASP-male erasure. Also, a far higher body count than I was expecting.

    Manners & Mutiny by Gail Carriger. The finale to the finishing school series. Really strong plotting and maybe her best so far. Made me wish Carriger would write something besides YA fluff. (Possibly she does under another name?)

    currently reading:
    A Life in Secrets: Vera Atkins and the Missing Agents of WWII by Sarah Helm. Alas, the library ebook copy is in overdrive format, meaning my tts reader won't read it aloud, meaning I have to read with my eyes, which is very slow going.

    I made myself a new slouchy black hat Sunday and I've made and frogged two brown hats after finally accepting the brown is just too tan+gold. It's terrible with my skin tone, even with a wide dark brown border.

    I discovered Daiya fake cheese for people who are allergic to dairy, soy, and gluten, and I am not allergic to it! It's expensive as hell, but I am not allergic to it!

    Also, dairy-free shrimp bisque is a thing I can do now! I was craving it all weekend despite never having actually HAD shrimp bisque. Then Sunday evening I looked up a dairy-free lobster bisque recipe, ignored most of it, and started throwing things in a pot. recipe/notes )

    Happy Thanksgiving, y'all who celebrate, and safe travels. Remember, self-care first, last, and always.
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    This is an advance announcement for the Tuesday, December 1, 2015 Poetry Fishbowl. This time the theme will be "weather." I'll be soliciting ideas for weathermen, weathered heroes, desert crawlers, strangers blown in on a storm, rainmakers, sun princes, weather deities, Oyuki-san, empathic environment, preparing for bad weather, making predictions, controlling the weather, getting caught in a storm, praying for rain, weathering the storm, huddling against the cold, watching the world burn, rebuilding from the ashes, hostile terraforming, wastelands, any port in a storm, shipwrecks, snow caves, creepy buildings, sanctuaries, habitat foreclosurehostile weather, space weather, strange alien storms, bizarre seasons, personal raincloud, lightning revelation, demonic charcoal fog, redemption in the rain, first snow, the power of the sun, thunderbirds, and poetic forms in particular.

    I have a linkback poem, "The Least of These" (11 verses, The Ocracies). 

    If you're interested, mark the date on your calendar, and please hold actual prompts until the "Poetry Fishbowl Open" post next week.  (If you're not available that day, or you live in a time zone that makes it hard to reach me, you can leave advance prompts.  I am now.)  Meanwhile, if you want to help with promotion, please feel free to link back here or repost this on your blog. 

    New to the fishbowl? Read all about it! )

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    "Punch down left! Knee! Double elbow! The frat boy is in the ground; you're gonna help him take a little nap. You're done with him. But here comes one of his friends! Jab jab cross jab cross! Knee! His girlfriend is coming up behind you! It's okay; you can't get in trouble for this because she's a black belt and you're defending yourself. Double elbow!"


    Nov. 25th, 2015 10:45 pm
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    It's been a rough night. I typo'd. And then I drabbled.

    Drabble: Welcome To Night Value. (100 words) by Lanna Michaels
    Chapters: 1/1
    Fandom: Welcome to Night Vale
    Rating: Not Rated
    Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply
    Relationships: Cecil Palmer/Carlos
    Characters: Cecil Palmer, Carlos (Welcome to Night Vale)
    Additional Tags: Drabble, Alternate Universe - Different Profession, Alternate Universe - Convenience Store, Because #yuletide

    And now, the customers.

    Good News

    Nov. 25th, 2015 09:31 pm
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    Good news includes all the things which make us happy or otherwise feel good. It can be personal or public. We never know when something wonderful will happen, and when it does, most people want to share it with someone. It's disappointing when nobody is there to appreciate it. Happily, blogging allows us to share our joys and pat each other on the back.

    What good news have you had recently?

    On the Matter of Gifts

    Nov. 25th, 2015 08:06 pm
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    One thing holidays do is divide between people who love gift cards and people who hate them.

    The rule is simple: when giving a gift, think of the recipient. If the person loves gift cards, then give that. You can 'customize' it by picking a favorite store; there are cards for department stores, book stores, clothing stores, most stores these days. If the person dislikes gift cards, give something else instead.

    The same applies to handmade gifts: some people love homemade goodies, while others hate them. Give what the recipient likes; avoid what they don't.

    And while we're on the topic, not everyone says "I love you" the same way. Here's an introduction to five popular love languages: words, service, gifts, time, touch. If you and your family share the same language(s) then great. If not, the most loving thing you can do is learn how to express love the way other people receive it.  They will be happy, and also if they notice how much work you're putting into it, they'll probably be impressed.  This means that not all people focus on the gift-giving part of the holidays.  A word-oriented person might prefer a long chatty letter or conversation about your year, a service-oriented person might favor being pampered, a time-oriented person generally likes doing things together, and a touch-oriented person might love snuggling by a fire.  You get the drift.

    Picking on people what they like is obnoxious. Don't be a dick. Especially, don't be a dick over the holidays.

    Happy Chrismahanakwanzikah to you. I'm posting this note ahead of Thanksgiving because the shopping season has sprawled out this early so yes, really, this advice is already needed. Not to mention arguments over who pays for the turkey supplies and how. Ah well. Try not to kill each other.

    Of Physics and Funerals

    Nov. 25th, 2015 07:57 pm
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    This is a good start.  For secular folks it really works and is beautiful as it stands. 

    I've even done one on star stuff -- as stars live, they are very far apart and everything is quite ephemeral. When they die, their bones are blasted out through space to coalesce into and around new stars.  This process begets planets, which are the heaven of stars; and the life upon them, that's us, we are the angels.  We are what stars become after they die.  Why wouldn't we look up and think of them as home?

    For me, life after death isn't faith, and it's not just memory either.  It's observation.  It's looking around the universe and seeing that everything exists within systems, within cycles.  Nothing is lost; everything is retained; it simply changes form.  Some of those changes are really exciting.  Just because we can't see the whole of a given cycle from the point we're standing in doesn't prevent us from mapping the part of it we can see, and that part tells us by its shape that it is incomplete and so there must be more which will only come into view after we have moved ahead some distance.  You can't see out of a womb when you're in it, either.

    Faith is believing what you've been told.  Extrapolation is using what you already know to predict the parts you can't get at yet.

    And funerals, well, they're for the community to patch up the hole that's left behind, and to make sure that the departed energy has in fact departed and isn't going to stick around loose to cause problems.  Do whatever works for you in that regard.

    Stacking Blocks

    Nov. 25th, 2015 06:25 pm
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    I have been following with great interest the study of Tetris as a preventative treatment for PTSD and a way of reducing flashbacks.

    So then I got to thinking, some people dislike video games or cannot play them.  But!  There are stacking-block games in real life too.  There are other pattern-matching games and puzzles.  I'm not into Tetris.  I love Bausack towers, and I also love tile sets that can be mixed around -- just handling the pieces and putting them into place is soothing.  I think that these would work for PTSD similar to Tetris because they use many of the same features.  You have to look at (or feel, if you're vision-impaired) the shape of the objects and the spaces to figure out what goes where.  As PTSD is fundamentally a sorting error in the brain, where you can't fit the file "EVENT.fck" into the "Past" folder, any kind of sorting activity should help facilitate that so it works better.  So having more options to explore for different ways to support that process should widen the pool of people who can be helped.


    Nov. 25th, 2015 05:13 pm
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    Watched all of Jessica Jones which I basically thought was great on every level, and I liked all the characters and am happy. Obviously I wanted more Luke, but Luke gets his own show, so there's that sorted. I don't really have a lot to say about it? I liked it and want more? If you tell me about a thing, I'll probably tell you why I liked it. I'm a boring reviewer, sorry.

    I've been enjoying the hell out of the several Agent Carter series two trailers. Bring it on!

    I think I'm going to try block civil war, Captain America and possibly MCU generally from my tumblr. Because we've been arguing about this for less than twenty four hours, and already I'm tired of it. I've already done this, and it wasn't fun the first time. My opinions, if anyone cares: trailer spoilers )

    Black Annie

    Nov. 25th, 2015 06:14 pm
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    So people are throwing a fit over this.

    Me, I loved the remake, especially in terms of comparing it to the earlier movie with attention to what and how things had been updated.  I admired the "foster kid" remake including its song.  I adored the use of social media as the means of driving not just public opinion but several important plot points.  It was very astute.  And I think that choosing to tell this story with black protagonists spoke to multiple aspects of life that concern people of color -- being wanted, being unwanted, success, family of choice when birth families don't work out the way you want, etc.

    People don't like it when somebody else gets a turn in the spotlight?  Wah wah, cry me a river.

    Wednesday Reading Meme

    Nov. 25th, 2015 06:45 pm
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    Well, I don't know about you guys, but my Tumblr dash has been melting down in flames since the Civil War trailer dropped. Let's... talk about something else, okay?

    What I Just Finished Reading


    What I'm Reading Now

    At least comics this week are fun and non-upsetting!

    Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur #1, The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl #2 )

    What I'm Reading Next

    Books, I guess?


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